After the horrible diagnosis and completly sureal day on the Monday just gone, me and my mum sat down and came up with a list of rules about how I want to be treated;
1. No cards or flowers
2. No being hysterical and wringing of hands (unless you have Redman or Tarzey in your name)
3. When you see me - please no negativity or drama
4. Don't all come at once - still plenty of time
5. No talk about hospitals and treatment plans - unless I want to talk about it
6. Mum and Sophie are just as important (actually even more important than me)
7. Please don't call me brave or amazing or keep saying how sorry you are (its not like its your fault)
8. If you do feel the urge to buy gifts - preferably don't, especially not chocolates
9. Please just be as normal as possible - difficult I know
10 Finally of course, I reserve the right to amend the above at any time - with or without notice
2. No being hysterical and wringing of hands (unless you have Redman or Tarzey in your name)
3. When you see me - please no negativity or drama
4. Don't all come at once - still plenty of time
5. No talk about hospitals and treatment plans - unless I want to talk about it
6. Mum and Sophie are just as important (actually even more important than me)
7. Please don't call me brave or amazing or keep saying how sorry you are (its not like its your fault)
8. If you do feel the urge to buy gifts - preferably don't, especially not chocolates
9. Please just be as normal as possible - difficult I know
10 Finally of course, I reserve the right to amend the above at any time - with or without notice
Following the last few days I think I have a few amendments and rules to add...
1. No flowers (cards are actually ok as long as they're not totally naff and have ridiculous soppy messages inside them, letters are also lovely if you so feel the need!)
2. No being hysterical and wringing of hands (unless you have Redman or Tarzey in your name or unless you're one of my closest friends!))
3. When you see me - please no negativity or drama
4. Don't all come at once - still plenty of time
5. No talk about hospitals and treatment plans - unless I want to talk about it, but also please don't avoid the subject completely, I don't want it to be the elephant in the room!
6. Mum and Sophie are just as important (actually even more important than me) again, and all my bestest friends
7. Please don't call me brave or amazing or keep saying how sorry you are (its not like its your fault)
8. If you do feel the urge to buy gifts - preferably don't, especially not chocolates
9. Please just be as normal as possible - difficult I know
10 Finally of course, I reserve the right to amend the above at any time - with or without notice
2. No being hysterical and wringing of hands (unless you have Redman or Tarzey in your name or unless you're one of my closest friends!))
3. When you see me - please no negativity or drama
4. Don't all come at once - still plenty of time
5. No talk about hospitals and treatment plans - unless I want to talk about it, but also please don't avoid the subject completely, I don't want it to be the elephant in the room!
6. Mum and Sophie are just as important (actually even more important than me) again, and all my bestest friends
7. Please don't call me brave or amazing or keep saying how sorry you are (its not like its your fault)
8. If you do feel the urge to buy gifts - preferably don't, especially not chocolates
9. Please just be as normal as possible - difficult I know
10 Finally of course, I reserve the right to amend the above at any time - with or without notice
Finally, please talk to me! I've had some lovely messages so far from a range of different people (sorry, I will get round to replying to you all!) and no one has said anything wrong! I'd rather you would something - anything! while you've got the chance than not saying anything and regretting it later, life is to short!
Ella xx
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